I heard an inspiring story this week from one of my lomi brothers. He was sharing about a time in his life where he was feeling out of control. Out of touch within himself. Disconnected from others. And the shift that changed everything.
He was raised in a Hawaiian family and was blessed with many gifts. Among them, the ability to see ancestors. To hear rocks speaking to him. The spiritual world felt like a very safe place to him.
However, in the physical world, he felt very misunderstood. He was always getting into trouble at home and testing his limits with others. He was carrying a lot of anger and didn’t know what to do it.
One day, an older man and friend of his parents asked, “Why are you so angry?”
“I don’t know.” (Typical teenager).
The man replied, “Well, you gotta be careful with that anger. You gotta get control of it. Otherwise, you might hurt someone. You might even hurt yourself.”
The man continued… “Try this. Each time you feel angry why don’t you take that shovel right there and go dig a hole outside.”
The next time that friend came over, it was clear young ma had had pretty rough weekend. Lots of anger. There were holes dug up all over the yard!
The friend said, “Oh, I can see you’ve been letting go of some of that anger, huh? See those trees over there? We’re going to plant those banana trees in each one of those holes.”
Together, they took all of the banana keikis, saplings, and planted bananas.
A few months later, the man returned for a visit and said, “Okay, it’s time.”
The boy and his mentor went and harvested all of the bananas, loaded them up in the back of the truck and took them around to all the community members.
“See, see what all your anger did? By using all that energy for something good, look how much happiness you’ve given to people.”
That was the day my lomi brother decided that he wasn’t going to let anger get the best of him. He decided to use that energy for something good. He stopped giving his power to the anger and found the calm within.
One of the herbs that we use to wash away anger is Olena. Olena is Hawaiian tumeric. We use it internally as a powerful anti-inflammatory and antibiotic. We also use Olena externally in cultural practice to wash over the body with intention to clear energies of anger, frustration and resentment.
If you find you have an emotion taking over and not allowing you to move from your place of light – of your true essence – turn that energy into something good.
Get out in the garden and let the earth show you what she can create. The earth, the stones know what to do with these energies and can transform.
You don’t even need to plant anything. Just put you hands, heart or piko, belly button, to Papa Honua Moku, Mother Earth. Humbly ask her to take away the heaviness from you.
Believe in the healing magic and be in gratitude that Ke Akua – Divine Spirit – has heard your request.
One of our Hawaiian kumu, Abraham Kawai’i said, “Your space of existence is everything you are, do, and everything around you. Take responsibility for it and you are at the center of your power.”
We can stop blaming everyone and everything else for how we are feeling. Begin to take responsibility for our actions, interactions, and any situation that we find ourselves in.
When we do this, we find ourselves at the center of our universe. Connected to all and all connected to us. We get to decide what to do with our energy.
Have you ever had success turning anger, frustration or resentment into something positive? Have a question for me? I’d love to hear about it in the comments below: