Do you know what Aloha spirit is?
Aloha is the most-well known word in the Hawaiian language.
It’s one thing to teach principles of aloha and quite another to see it in action. I have a beautiful story to share with you about one man’s transformation using these principles.
At Ho’omana Spa, I am inspired by the spirit of Aloha in my Lomi journey every single day from students, clients, and fans all over the world.
Lomi Lomi is about spreading the arms of Aloha around the globe. You can use these ancient Hawaiian teachings of wellness to move old energy and cultivate new levels of Aloha in any situation.
I want to introduce you to one of my clients. We’re going to call him Phil and he has been a regular client here over the past few months.
To be honest, Phil caught my attention from the very first day. I can see he is in tune with the shifts and changes that are going on with him, both mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. These are the lessons he has shown me in his Lomi Journey.
Aloha is our birthright.
Phil grew up in a rough neighborhood on the East coast. At that time, if you were in school, you were for sure carrying a gun. That was the kind of neighborhood that he lived in.
When you walked through your neighborhood, it was common to find strung out on heroin. They might even be laying on your porch!
This was Phil’s life. Scary. Intense. Alone.
There was no love. No nurturing care. He never got a hug. Never heard I love you.
The only thing on Phil’s mind: Survive.
The good news is, Phil did survive. He grew up and met a loving woman. She had a loving family and they were married.
Phil and his wife had children. More love.
Even though he had all this love in front of him, Phil didn’t know what to do with it. He didn’t know how to receive love or show love. He didn’t know how to nurture them.
“I remember the first time I realized I could love someone. When my daughter was going off to college, I helped her create a game plan. I made sure to cover how to set up the dorm room, confirm coursework with the registrar and handle all of the logistics.
Then, I took her to the airport. We said goodbye and she walked away. Suddenly, an overwhelming wave started coming over me. I didn’t know what it was and I had never experienced it before.
Tears became crying and then I started weeping.
I realized then, how much I loved her. I never expressed it, but it was there.”
This story illustrates one simple truth: Love, Aloha, is our birthright.
It doesn’t matter how we were raised or whether we received love or felt it before. Love exists because we exist. The breath of Aloha was poured through every single one of us when we arrived here to this planet.
Love is our birthright and nobody can take it from you. We just have to reach inside and find the moments when we can feel it and bring it out to another.
Aloha takes two (or more)
Eventually, Phil separated from his wife and became estranged from his children. COVID was an immersion of isolation and loneliness.
He came to Ho’omana, where we set the intention to hold someone’s heart in our hands. We don’t fix and we don’t cure. We hold sacred space.
Phil said, ”I’ve been feeling something move in my body and it’s powerful. There’s been a huge shift!”
Here’s what happened.
His daughter, the one from the airport who has been estranged, called. Phil couldn’t believe it!
“Dad, I just want to let you know. I understand.
I understand who you are, and I see you. You never got hugs. There was no nurturing. And I understand why it’s been challenging you to give and receive this love.
And Dad…I love you.”
For the first time, Phil felt love and said to his daughter, “I love you, too.”
When Phil told me the story he said, “Something magic is happening.
When I come here and I get off the table, something moves in me. I feel like what’s been happening here has been happening on every level.
I feel good in my body and there’s also been an opening in my heart.”
Aloha, Kakou Mai Kakou. That means Kakou means you, me and all of us present here.
Aloha is not for one. It is experienced by one and ripples out to others.
Aloha is reciprocal and demonstration of the connection between us. We have exchanged divine breath and it’s the divine breath of the love of spirit that exists between us.
This is transformation on all levels, mind, body and spirit.
With Aloha, Any Thing is Possible
Auntie Nona Beamer has teaching “ko aloha la ea” – it means keep your love.
No matter what obstacles are in your way, keep your love. Whoever you are, wherever you come from, with love we can surmount anything.
“You know, those prayers that you do in Lomi at the beginning and at the end,” said Phil. “I really feel those prayers. There’s some magic in those prayers. I feel it.
It is making a big change in my life and helping me to get rid of old baggage to release. Even at 70 years old, I’m still learning.”
Remember, Aloha is your birthright. Cultivate the giving and receiving of Aloha and learn to keep the love in any situation. Ko aloha la ea.
Where in your life, do you need more aloha? Share a comment below so we can connect.
I’m sending my deep Aloha to you today, wherever you are,
Kumu Jeana Iwalani Naluai